Nuevo Laredo, Mexico - Ruben Flores, 64, sits inside his one-room office. He types letters for people who can’t write. He opened his stall in 1964, just across from the city’s municipal building. For nearly 50 years he’s helped people with everything from taxes to government forms, but his favorite letters to write are love letters. To him the border has changed a lot over time and today he says it makes it harder for people to get visas and for tourists to enter his city.
Throughout the years he’s seen a lot of life pass by and has many memories. One of his fondest — the night he and his friends went to see the Beatles in ‘A Hard Days Night.’ “I remember the day like it was yesterday,” said Flores, with a wide grin.
And yes, he really said that, believe me I didn’t prompt the pun. Half his answers were in Beatles lyrics.
This fantastic and moving tribute to Philip Seymour Hoffman by Caleb Slain features over 40 of Hoffman’s films.
At 17:22 the video uses a clip from a 2010 interview with Ross Reynolds of NPR affiliate KUOW in which Hoffman says:
People need each other and that actual interaction or relationship or friendship or romantic love affair, all the different ways relationships take form—is one of the hardest things we do in our lives. It’s one of the biggest risks we’ll take in our lives… If you say ‘yes’ to someone, ‘I will,’ [you] are also saying, ‘I will be hurt by you.’ Because you can’t have relationships if you’re not willing to be disappointed and hurt by that person. It’s almost impossible. And you have to be able to enter the world and realize that the richness of life is all the good and joy and thrill of it, but also all the disappointment, hurt, and heartache of it—and that all of that is what’s great.
Hoffman spoke to Terry in 1999 and 2008. We play parts of both interviews in our tribute to him.
*Quote transcribed as it was said in the interview, not as in the tribute
Feminism is having a wardrobe malfunction.
Does your brand of feminism remove barriers for women, or simply move them around? Does is expand options for women, or does it just shift them? You don’t liberate women by forcing them to choose option B instead of option A. What is comfortable for you might not be comfortable for someone else, and it’s entirely possible that what you see as oppressive, other women find comfortable or even downright liberating.
Before you think the girl in the middle is a strawman, let me tell you I used to be her, back in my misguided youth. I considered myself the standard to which other people should adhere. But that was stupid. It’s not up to me to tell people how to dress, and it’s much nicer to let everyone choose for themselves.
Some women would feel naked without a veil. Some women would find it restrictive. Some women would feel restricted by a bra. Some women would feel naked without one. Some women would feel restricted by a tight corset. Others love them. Some wear lots of clothes with a corset. Some only wear the corset and nothing else. What makes any article of clothing oppressive is someone forcing you to wear it. And it’s just as oppressive to force someone not to wear something that they want to wear.